- I've never found losing weight to be as scientific as they make it out to be. I know 3500 calories equals a pound, so I grasp that if I create a deficit of 3500 calories of what my body needs to sustain my current weight by either moving more or eating less, then it should result in weight loss. But you know, sometimes it just doesn't. Sometimes my body doesn't do what I expect it to do or what the scientists say it should. I was kind of relieved when I heard someone weighing in on the Biggest Loser that she had tracked exactly how many calories she had consumed and burned but her body didn't do what it was supposed to. I don't think they've figured out the body's exact schedule yet. So to schedule weight loss just leaves me feeling frustrated.
- To count ahead to how much weight I will lose puts me in the "dreaming about weight loss" mindset instead of the "making active decisions about losing weight" mindset. How many nights have I lain awake counting on my fingers how much weight I could lose by a certain time? That anticipated counting doesn't seem to move me forward. But it does work for me to count what's past--that it, it's more effective to count my steps! (A high count means the moving/achieving has already been done.) Wishing to be thinner doesn't get me anywhere.
- I think the whole goal by a certain date somehow makes it seem kind of competitive. And I've never been very good at competition. I don't think I could be on The Biggest Loser, for instance, because I can't stand the game playing aspect of it. This season has made that more clear for me. I'm not sure if I'd been Phil or Amy that I could have left and succeeded after having so many evil people attacking me. I'm impressed with how they were able to move on instead of letting those people sink them. (By the way, I love how Bob called Vicki Shakespearean--what a more enlightened term to describe her manipulative, cruel, purposefully painful ways than simply calling her a Bitch.)
Anyhow, I think it's great if setting those kind of goals works for people and keeps them on track. It just doesn't for me. Each week just seems to slip by, with me always counting on getting on it the next week.
What does help me is setting weekly goals that involve activity particularly--like have a goal that I'll exercise twice a day at least 2 days during the week. Setting identity rules around eating helps me too. Like I don't eat from anyone's candy dish. These kind of goals feel more within my control and help me feel more immediately successful.
If you have success setting a weight goal by a certain time, what makes it work for you? What do you tell yourself?